A lot of the current wisdom on how to get your ex back rely on the same advice: wait a month, let them cool off, then contact them. The theory is that after 30 days they will have stopped being so mad at you and be more open to reconnecting.
This advice is based on the idea that time heals all wounds. That after a month or so they won't be so mad and may even feel like forgiving you some.
This method of getting back with your ex has some value in some specific situations. But, for the most part, it can create a lot of problems. The anger your ex may feel can simmer and fester for all those weeks. Their heart can harden towards you in that time. Also, they may start dating someone else. When there is someone else in the picture, their heart strings start to attach to the new person, making it extremely difficult to get them back.
To try to avoid these issues, you will need an entirely different approach. Every break up is different and unique, but there are three main reasons that relationships end. You wronged them, they wronged you, or they're just not that into you anymore. While each of these reasons requires a different reconnect method, each one can often be repaired in a matter of hours or days, not weeks.
How might this work if you cheated on your ex and got kicked out last week, as an example? Your ex is full of anger and betrayal and feels like they can't trust you ever again.
Well, to get them back, one of the first steps is to realize that feelings change. They are mad about a specific incident. They will get over it, maybe in a year or a month, they won't be that mad forever. But feelings change.
The second thing to understand is that you can help their feelings change. This is the key to getting your ex back fast instead of waiting weeks. You can help them to get over their negative feelings towards you. There are a couple of ways of doing this. One is with a certain kind of apology (yes, there are different kinds!) and another way is to let them vent or get the feelings off their chest.
When combined, these two methods can help your ex release their hurt feelings. This makes room for forgiveness, which is the first step to taking your back. So venting and apologizing in the right way can get your ex back in hours instead of weeks or months. - 20611
This advice is based on the idea that time heals all wounds. That after a month or so they won't be so mad and may even feel like forgiving you some.
This method of getting back with your ex has some value in some specific situations. But, for the most part, it can create a lot of problems. The anger your ex may feel can simmer and fester for all those weeks. Their heart can harden towards you in that time. Also, they may start dating someone else. When there is someone else in the picture, their heart strings start to attach to the new person, making it extremely difficult to get them back.
To try to avoid these issues, you will need an entirely different approach. Every break up is different and unique, but there are three main reasons that relationships end. You wronged them, they wronged you, or they're just not that into you anymore. While each of these reasons requires a different reconnect method, each one can often be repaired in a matter of hours or days, not weeks.
How might this work if you cheated on your ex and got kicked out last week, as an example? Your ex is full of anger and betrayal and feels like they can't trust you ever again.
Well, to get them back, one of the first steps is to realize that feelings change. They are mad about a specific incident. They will get over it, maybe in a year or a month, they won't be that mad forever. But feelings change.
The second thing to understand is that you can help their feelings change. This is the key to getting your ex back fast instead of waiting weeks. You can help them to get over their negative feelings towards you. There are a couple of ways of doing this. One is with a certain kind of apology (yes, there are different kinds!) and another way is to let them vent or get the feelings off their chest.
When combined, these two methods can help your ex release their hurt feelings. This makes room for forgiveness, which is the first step to taking your back. So venting and apologizing in the right way can get your ex back in hours instead of weeks or months. - 20611
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You can discovermore about the Proven Reconnect Methods to get your ex back in a book about Get Your Ex Back In Just Hours. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship and emotional skills and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights They Never Taught You In School here at Love Relationship Advice Help Secrets.
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