Make sure to read part 1 of this article before this part!
3. Be Prepared With Good Stories
Perhaps the toughest thing about meeting new women is having zero to say to them!
An awkward pause in the conversation can mean DEATH for the interaction. And most shy guys will let an opportunity to meet a girl pass them by because of the excuse "I don't know what to talk to her about."
But the dirty little secret of approaching women is that you don't NEED much to talk about with them. If you have just a few interesting stories to tell, you're good. The rest of the time, you can just ask her questions and let her talk about herself.
The stories don't even have to be about you! They can be about a friend of yours, or about a news story you saw. It doesn't matter, as long as you have some fun and entertaining stuff you know you can talk about with a girl when there is a lull in the conversation.
This will help you avoid any awkwardness you may feel when approaching a woman.
4. Don't Think About It - Just Do It!
If given enough time to think about it, a shy guy will talk himself out of approaching a girl. The trick is to act before your brain has time to rationalize an excuse not to approach.
Before three seconds are up, you should say "Hi!"
Just like that. Do it. Say "Hi". Don't allow yourself to think.
She'll probably say "Hi" back, and when she does, use your conversation starter. There you go, you're in a conversation!
Shyness is caused by allowing your brain to visualize all the bad outcomes of an interaction with a girl. Don't give it the chance! Pull a Nike, and just do it.
5. Utilize Online Dating
Finally, shy guys should be using the internet to help them meet women. This actually serves two purposes...
First off, it helps shy guys meet women without actually having to talk to them at first, so there is enough time to build up some trust and comfort there. By the time the first date rolls around, most of the hard work has been done!
Secondly, going online can give you OPTIONS. Typically, shy guys don't have a lot of women available to them, so they place a great deal of importance on each girl they like.
But if you have 5-10 women emailing you, all wanting to meet up, this will give you an ABUNDANCE mentality, and make it easier to approach women in real life because you know if it doesn't work out, you still have lots of other girls wanting to meet you.
This is a HUGE psychological benefit!
We learn to be shy. It's not inherent. So with some practice, we can learn to be not shy. It takes effort, but you'll improve quickly.
And soon, your shyness will be history! - 20611
3. Be Prepared With Good Stories
Perhaps the toughest thing about meeting new women is having zero to say to them!
An awkward pause in the conversation can mean DEATH for the interaction. And most shy guys will let an opportunity to meet a girl pass them by because of the excuse "I don't know what to talk to her about."
But the dirty little secret of approaching women is that you don't NEED much to talk about with them. If you have just a few interesting stories to tell, you're good. The rest of the time, you can just ask her questions and let her talk about herself.
The stories don't even have to be about you! They can be about a friend of yours, or about a news story you saw. It doesn't matter, as long as you have some fun and entertaining stuff you know you can talk about with a girl when there is a lull in the conversation.
This will help you avoid any awkwardness you may feel when approaching a woman.
4. Don't Think About It - Just Do It!
If given enough time to think about it, a shy guy will talk himself out of approaching a girl. The trick is to act before your brain has time to rationalize an excuse not to approach.
Before three seconds are up, you should say "Hi!"
Just like that. Do it. Say "Hi". Don't allow yourself to think.
She'll probably say "Hi" back, and when she does, use your conversation starter. There you go, you're in a conversation!
Shyness is caused by allowing your brain to visualize all the bad outcomes of an interaction with a girl. Don't give it the chance! Pull a Nike, and just do it.
5. Utilize Online Dating
Finally, shy guys should be using the internet to help them meet women. This actually serves two purposes...
First off, it helps shy guys meet women without actually having to talk to them at first, so there is enough time to build up some trust and comfort there. By the time the first date rolls around, most of the hard work has been done!
Secondly, going online can give you OPTIONS. Typically, shy guys don't have a lot of women available to them, so they place a great deal of importance on each girl they like.
But if you have 5-10 women emailing you, all wanting to meet up, this will give you an ABUNDANCE mentality, and make it easier to approach women in real life because you know if it doesn't work out, you still have lots of other girls wanting to meet you.
This is a HUGE psychological benefit!
We learn to be shy. It's not inherent. So with some practice, we can learn to be not shy. It takes effort, but you'll improve quickly.
And soon, your shyness will be history! - 20611
About the Author:
If you are too scared to meet women you'll definitely want to scope out Joseph Matthew's free how to meet women newsletter where you'll get all the latest techniques and advice for meeting the girl of your dreams.
0 comments:
Post a Comment